One of the downside of being a early 20 something mother is not having friends with children (speaking from my experience). Most of my friends are focused on their budding careers, studies and travels. There is definitely no signs (not that I know of or see) of slowing down to have kids of their own at this given moment. If one of them tells me that they are pregnant, then I would be extremely surprised.
Luckily, my friends loves children and doesn’t mind doing activities that involves them. Most of the time we would just stay indoors (my house or their house), go to the park or eat a family friendly restaurant. We talk about life and catch up on a billion things that I have missed out on (which I love by the way – I love stories and story telling). But sometimes I feel almost as if I was out of place. There are times where I just could not relate because I am totally in a different path in life (they sometimes probably feel that way too because how can they possibly relate to me talking about the handling on my stroller when they don’t even have children). They are getting excited about a trip, while I am getting excited about a stroller. That is a stark difference. We are no longer experiencing the same things in life.
I am in no way suggesting that the contrast between our lifestyles are pulling us apart. It is just something that I have not come to terms with. I’ve known my friends and their families ever since high school and they are like my own. They welcomed me with open arms and vice versa. We graduated together, laughed together, cried together, fought with each other and travelled together. I want to be able to add “our children plays together” on this list someday. I would not throw that away over this insecurity of being out of place. We will be forever friends (I hope).
When they do decide to have kids I will be here for them and can help them out to the best of my abilities.